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Mediation


What is Mediation?


Mediation is a well established process for resolving disagreements in which an impartial third party, the mediator, helps people in dispute to find a mutually acceptable resolution.

The process allows those involved the opportunity to explore ways of resolving a conflict by using a third, neutral party.  It gives them the chance, whether aggrieved or not, to take responsibility to resolve the dispute or reach agreement by coming up with their own practical solutions which will benefit all involved.

Focusing on the future encourages participants to rebuild relationships rather than apportioning blame for what has happened in the past. By acknowledging feelings as well as facts it allows participants to communicate effectively and, to let go of anger and upset and move forward.

The Role of a Mediator.

Mediators are trained men and women who aim to assist people resolve their difficulties. They do not advise those in dispute, but help participants to communicate with one another, without making judgements about the rights and wrongs of issues.

They will help all involved find ways forward without having a say in the outcome of the process. They will not tell anyone else what has been said.

The Mediation Process.

Mediation is a flexible process that is used in a number of different situations. It can be direct or indirect, those involved usually meet face to face.

Initially, parties visit the mediators individually. The mediators will ask each of them to explain how they see the current situation, and how they would like it to be in the future. They will also ask what suggestions the parties have for sorting out the disagreement. Information shared during the mediation is private and confidential, with the exception of disclosure of serious abuse, unless otherwise agreed.

If both parties agree to come to a joint meeting, the following steps take place.  Mediators will explain the structure of the meeting and ask everyone to agree to some basic rules, such as listening without interrupting and not using offensive remarks.  Each person will then have a chance to talk about the problem as it affects him or her. The mediators will try to make sure that everyone understands what each person has said and allow them to respond. They will then help both parties identify the issues that need to be sorted out. Very often this leads to solutions that no one had thought of before, helping parties to reach an agreement. The agreement is sometimes written down and signed by both parties and the mediators. However, it is not legally binding but simply acts as a reminder to both parties as to what was agreed between them.

They also work to repair the harm of crime, generating understanding and reducing fear. Mediation can offer victims of crime a way to communicate with the person who committed the crime, giving an opportunity to express what they have gone through and how they have been affected. Victim Offender Mediation also works with offenders by enabling them to acknowledge responsibility for their behaviour, and understand the impact their actions can have on others.

Will there be any Charges?

In most cases the mediation service is free. Any cost, if charged, will vary depending on your financial situation and the amount of visits, which are not limited, will depend on progress.

Contact us if you require any further advice, guidance or information.

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