Separation & Divorce

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Children

The children are the most important part of your separation and divorce and you need to work together to sort out arrangements for their future.

Try to reach agreement with each other and give as much reassurance to your children as possible.

Babies and younger children adapt better to the changes that separation and divorce brings. Encouraging older children to express their feelings and being involved will help them adapt better and quicker to their new lives. Listen to their views and opinions and take these into account.

Avoid arguments and never criticize or insult the other parent, or family and friends, to them or in their presence. Try not to let them down, always keep to contact days and times and never refuse contact that has previously been agreed or the children have asked for.

Remember not to...

  • Refuse contact that has previously been agreed, or asked for by the children, without good reason.
  • Fail to turn up, or are late for, contact that has been agreed or expected by the children.
  • Refuse to pass on messages, e-mails, letters, cards, presents and the like or allow the children to receive phone calls or text messages.
  • Involve the children in your arguments.
  • Criticize the absent parent to the children.
  • Discuss any matters relating to your separation, divorce and finances with your children.
  • Blame the absent parent for your present situation.


Reassure your children that you can manage your own affairs and that they need not feel responsible for helping you. Never involve the children in your battles, hide all paperwork and letters and never discuss any financial or legal matters with them.

Establish a regular routine of contact as soon as possible after separation. If you are struggling to maintain contact, or are having contact refused, contact us for further help and advice.

If your children have chosen to live with you, or are presently living with you, try to continue as normal as possible. Encourage regular contact with Mum, and her family, and never refuse any communication, e-mail, text message or visit.

Remember to...

  • Allow your children's lives to continue as normal as possible, after school activities, clubs and the like.
  • Encourage regular contact with the absent parent and their family and friends.
  • Be honest, but tactful, when asked questions by your children.


Whatever arrangements are made, it is important for brothers and sisters to stay together whereever possible. It is imperative that you consider all the implications to your children before making any decisions or changes.

Contact us if you require any further advice, guidance or information.

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