Advice & Support

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Advice & Support


"You are not alone, there are many Dads just like you".

Do you need help and advice through the processes of separation and divorce?

Are you struggling to maintain contact with your children?

Are your children's and your views and opinions being ignored?

Are you worried about your children's wellbeing and how your present situation might effect them?

Do your children live with you? Do you feel isolated and alone?

Are your children living out of the islands?

We have all heard statistics about how many separated or divorced Dads see their children. What's the truth?

  • 9 out of 10 "lone parents" are female.
  • 1 out of 10 separated couples share the care of their children equally.
  • 1 in 3 children see their non-resident Dad at least weekly.
  • 1 in 2 see him at least monthly.
  • 1 in 4 children rarely, or never, see their non-resident Dad.
  • 1 in 4 non-resident Dads say their child's Mum has made contact difficult.
  • 1 in 4 Mums whose child has contact with their Dad, say his lack of commitment, unreliability or inflexibility has got in the way.
     

Less contact is likely when Dads are...

  • poor.
  • not well educated.
  • have never, or only briefly, lived with their child.
  • don't get on well with their child's Mum.
  • re-partnered or have more children.


More contact is likely when Dads...

  • pay maintenance.
  • began seeing their children regularly soon after the breakup.
  • have written agreements about contact with their child's Mum.
  • feel they have influence over their children.
  • are competent as a Dad.
  • feel satisfied with parenting.


It is recognized these days that Dads take a more active role in their children's lives and upbringing. When a relationship breaks down, Grannies, Grandpas, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins and Friends are also effected. It is up to us as parents to ensure that our children's lives continue as normal as possible after separation and divorce. Unfortunately, all too often our anger clouds our judgment and we do things or say things that effect our children's safety, security and happiness.

The contents and information on this site, and the thought of having to go through all this yourself, may seem extremely daunting. Try not to worry, take one step at a time, talk things over with friends and relatives that you trust and, above all, remember that as long as your children are happy, healthy and safe the rest will fall into place with time.

Never put anything in writing to anyone or sign any documents, letters or forms without first taking advice and considering all the potential implications.

Whether you are married, divorced, separated or widowed, we can offer you all the advice and support that you need.

Some of the procedures described and the terms used may be different depending on whether you live in Jersey, Guernsey or one of the other Islands. Contact us for further information.

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